The Girl's Guide to DC
Issue 46: Networking Isn't Like 'Succession'
Welcome back! If you missed the most recent issue, find it here.
Many of you may have already heard the news — Nick and I announced we are expecting our first child this year! Don’t worry, The Girl’s Guide is not going to become a baby blog… because I am a complete rookie on all that stuff. Send me your mom-to-be tips by replying to this email.
5 Tips For Building A Professional Network If You’re Not Super Outgoing
This week, I’m featuring my latest article for Evie Magazine, 5 Tips For Building A Professional Network If You’re Not Super Outgoing.
You’ve probably heard the phrase “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know” – and even though it’s cliché, it’s true, especially when it comes to your career.
Many of the job opportunities that have opened up for me have come, not through a cold call or an Indeed.com listing, but through someone in my network. That can be a college classmate, former coworker, or even a family friend.
Networking has a bad rap because many people associate it with being transactional. It seems that only the most extroverted of extroverts can succeed at networking, and the rest of us are just left in their hand-shaking, back-slapping dust.
But the truth is that if you know people, you have a network. And you should never underestimate the power of your network – as many as 80% of jobs are filled via networking, according to CNBC.
So what are the best networking tips for the reluctant networker? Keep reading to find out.
1. Remember You Have Something To Offer
The concept of networking can feel like a “me, me, me” activity – until you remember that there are companies and hiring managers looking for someone just like you. A record number of Americans have been quitting their jobs in recent months, making good candidates even more valuable to recruiters.
If you’re looking for your first job, an internship, or even just training to improve your skills, there are employers out there who will benefit from that. Remember that you have something to offer! That doesn’t mean you have to toot your own horn to anyone who will listen, but it does mean shifting your mindset if you’re someone who typically shies away from talking about your career goals.
Interview with Chelsea Sobolik
This week, I’m excited to introduce you to Chelsea Sobolik, an author who is working on her second book after publishing Longing for Motherhood in 2018. She’s also a ThredUp aficionado who’s excited to break out her favorite summer wardrobe staples: a pair of espadrilles, a straw bag, and sunglasses!
Connect with Chelsea on Twitter here.
What do you love about your neighborhood?
My husband and I live on the H street corridor and love it! We’re within walking distance to fabulous restaurants, parks, and coffee shops!
What does your life look like right now?
I work full time in public policy, and I’m working on my second book in my spare time. My husband and I are also in the adoption process, so our days are full, but I deeply enjoy my work and writing.
What’s your advice for a woman who’s new to DC?
Invest deeply in others. DC can be a transient city, and it can be tempting not to entering into deep relationships if you don’t know how long you’ll be here. But I’d recommend being extremely intentional about building deep relationships. There are so many other people in your same position, and plenty of opportunities to find and build good friendships.
What’s your advice for aspiring writers?
Writers, write. Learn to write when you don’t feel like it, because you can’t grow your craft if you only write when you feel inspired. Consistently compounds, and your skills will be sharpened as you write frequently. Write because you have something worthwhile to say — it’ll come out in your writing. Build relationships with other writers, and don’t be afraid of rejection. Most authors have faced multiple rejections, it’s part of the process and helps you hone your craft and message.
What’s your beauty routine like?
I became a lot more intentional about my skincare routine during the pandemic, and I’m pretty intentional about my evening skincare routine. I love a good Vitamin C and Hyaluronic Acid (The Ordinary’s is great and affordable!) As we’re entering into the warmer months, I use a sunless tanner about once a week to give me a natural glow. My favorite sunless tanner is from Beauty by Earth.
How would you describe your style?
My style is mostly classic, but I enjoy trying out a few trends each season. I also love a bold lipstick! I get bored pretty easily with my hair, and love switching it up fairly often!
I love ThredUp!! I’ve found some incredible deals on there, for pennies on the dollar, and it’s an affordable and sustainable way to add a few new pieces without breaking the bank. The thing I love about ThredUp is that you can search by brand, size, style, etc.
White House Fashion Police
Apparently, White House staffers have fashion on the brain: all staffers who come in contact with a principal like President Biden must wear a color-coded bracelet to show they’re Covid negative. The only problem is, the staffers don’t like it when the bracelets clash with their outfits. Read the full scoop in Politico, and remember that neutrals are always an option!
Netflix Declares War
Netflix is declaring war… on password sharing, that is. So if you’re currently using your best friend’s cousin’s ex-girlfriend’s account, consider this your warning. I will neither confirm nor deny whether I have my own account, but no one better get in the way of my Love Is Blind addiction. Check out this CNBC story on why Netflix wants to make password sharing harder — it has something to do with the plethora of streaming services that have cropped up in recent years.
Bye-Bye, Bethesda Bagels
On the heels of their win in the Great Washingtonian Bagel Contest of 2022, Bethesda Bagels just announced they’re closing their Dupont location. The iconic bagel shop was open for more than a decade. You can still get your Bethesda Bagels fix in Navy Yard, Rosslyn, Bethesda, and Rockville. Read The Washingtonian’s report here.
If visiting the Virginia countryside sounds like a great weekend to you, check out the Spring Market at Ballenger Farm in Hamilton, VA! The market is Saturday, April 23, from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Some of the artists I interviewed for my 2021 Gift Guide will be there, including Rachel Hankinson and Adriana Von Helms.
Tweet of the Week
My dear friend Audrey Conklin is moving on from DC — but not before leaving a parting gift for those of us still here. Check out this amazing Twitter thread of her favorite DC restaurants below!
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